You know what's awesome about today's shirt? It's got so many cute details! The top and the tank underneath are both from AdditionElle+The buttons on this blouse are actually snaps with a pearlescent detail. You know why this is awesome? Because I can't count on two hands the number of buttons I've had pop off of shirts over the past few years. The snaps on this shirt just snap open if I breathe in too deep (it's not that tight, but just or example!)
The back has a cute lace up detail that I can let out if I've had a particularily big meal or want to wear the shirt with all the snaps done up. It's also got little snaps on the sleeves 
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at I usually like to leave open, too, since I really don't like tight sleeves.
I usually wear this shirt with a yellow tank underneath because what you can't tell in the picture is that the top has gold threads sewn through it. It looks really cute with a yellow or an olive green tank top.
The jeans are from Reitmans. I can wear their biggest size, so it makes me feel good that I can still shop in a "normal sized person"s store. One sock is green stripes with frogs and the other is pink and purple argyle.
TJ asked yesterday about how we take compliments when they are given. My response is always the same whether I know the person or not. I always just say "Oh thanks". If it's a person I know and they're giving me a compliment, I'll generally be happy with my "oh thanks!". If it's a person I don't know, I'll accompany my "oh thanks" with a dismissive wave of my hand.
With a negative reaction to my clothing, or appearance, I can't help but take it to heart, no matter whether I know the person or not. I've never had a strong sense of self confidence or a good self image, and when someone is negative towards me, it hits me really hard. I try not to let it, I'll just put up a mask of happiness and then come home and cry into my pillow. I know that this is childish. I really do, I just can't help it. That's why I'm in love with this project. I'm hoping it will eventually let me see a side of myself that I find positive, and you have no idea how much THAT scares me.
Cute shirt is cute!
ReplyDeleteI can't even accept a compliment graciously unless I make a conscious effort - my initial reaction is to not only dismiss it, but to also explain WHY a person's complement is WRONG. Sheesh. And I'm the same way with negative reactions: I know I *shouldn't* care what people think (especially strangers! who I'll probably never see again!), but I do. :-s
Thank you for sharing how scary something good can be! I'm glad to know I'm not the only one out there who tries to fight my usual avoidance of good self-image. You're right, it's terrifying, but the fact that you can SAY it is really inspiring.
ReplyDeleteOh, and that shirt is adorable :)
That is exactly the kind of shirt I would buy. Anything with a tie at the back works for me! And I dig the expression on your face, you look like you're planning something naughty. :-)
ReplyDeleteYou're so right; I commented on TJ's blog that I try to take compliments graciously because I feel it's belittling the complimenter not to do so; but I do have a very hard time actually accepting compliments because I don't think I'm worth the praise I'm receiving. Thank you for being so open about it.
You are so way braver than me -- anything plaid or with heavy patterns I'm totally afraid of. But seeing you in that makes me think I could maybe try it.
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